Relationship Coach & Anthropologist
Herstory
I’m a trauma-informed relationship coach, educator, and mother, living and working on the unceded ancestral territories of the Coast Salish peoples in the Pacific Northwest. I guide individuals and couples through moments of upset, rupture, and conflict, helping them build deeper self and mutual understanding, and emotional intimacy in their most meaningful relationships.
As a neurodivergent social scientist, my approach is grounded in compassion, lived experience, and a deep understanding of how trauma shapes our connections. Growing up with parents who struggled with addiction and spending years in foster care with my younger siblings taught me firsthand about the resilience of the human spirit and the complexities of relationships in challenging environments.
My background in cultural anthropology offers a unique lens for recognizing the intricate patterns and dynamics that emerge in relationships, shaped by culture, history, and social institutions. I also bring the wisdom of being a loving mother to my 9-year-old son, navigating the challenges of holistic parenting under neocolonialism with integrity and intention.
The Modalities I Work With:
- Polyvagal nervous system education
- Conscious communication
- Non-violent communication
- The Wheel of Consent (boundary setting)
- Indigenous ways of knowing
- Inner child work (similar to IFS)
- Love-mathematics
- Attachment theory
- Trauma-informed psychology
- Human design and astrology
My style of coaching..
In my coaching practice, I guide my clients towards uncovering core beliefs and reframing them, building social emotional skills, developing repair skills and self-compassion, and finding effective ways to set boundaries and communicate needs. The core basis of my work rests in helping my clients develop a more connected, calm, curious, and compassionate relationship with themselves.
My style of coaching is unique in that I am a resource, and what you get depends on what you pull from me. I do not create a structure or plan for my clients. If you need a plan, I am not for you. I see life and all of the interpersonal dilemmas we struggle with as inherently complex and abstract. Thus, I coach in a non-linear way. I find that as soon as we label or box things in (as the Western colonial mindset has taught us) we lose their essence and the benefits of a holistic perspective. Black-and-white thinking is my nemesis. My forte is playing in the grey area with ample curiosity. And my life is living proof of how beneficial it can be to get off the linear track and ride the waves of the abstract.
A mentorship with me is an immersive experience where you receive undivided attention, care, and radically honest truth. This is for people who are committed to healing their relational patterns and desire to be called into higher integrity.
Qualifications
Through all the pain and suffering I've felt and witnessed in the world, I believe that cultivating and sustaining healthy, reciprocal relationships is activism work and the clearest path to solving so many of humanity’s problems.
My academic background is in cultural and medical anthropology, communications, dialogue facilitation, and psychology. These degrees provided me with an awareness of the role culture plays in shaping the reactions and perceptions of ourselves & others, and how societal structures and institutions impact individuals, families, and relationships on a daily basis. They also gave me critical observation skills when it comes to observing human relationships, identifying value systems, and uncovering deeper meaning.
It's one thing to have a bunch of education, but if you don't also have the life experience to connect all that theory to, it's just information. What makes me so good at what I do, are all of the lessons I've integrated through my rich life experience. I've survived disabilities, parents with addictions, foster care, infidelity, single motherhood while in University, and a lot more. I am here to offer guidance and education based on what I have tested, failed, and executed correctly. I am here to guide you, with an emphasis on healing through love.