Relationship Philosopher & Anthropologist
I’m a trauma-informed relationship philosopher, educator, and mother, living and working on the unceded ancestral territories of the Coast Salish peoples in the Pacific Northwest. I help people navigate moments of rupture with more self-awareness, compassion, and skill, so they can build trust, intimacy, and connection with themselves and each other.
As a neurodivergent social scientist, my work is rooted in compassion, lived experience, and a deep understanding of how trauma shapes our connections. That understanding began early: during my teenage years, my parents’ struggles with addiction led to me spending time in foster care with my younger siblings. Those years taught me about the resilience of the human spirit, and the layered, often messy, beauty of relationships.
My background in cultural anthropology shaped a lens that sees the invisible threads.. how culture, history, and social institutions quietly weave themselves into our relationships. I also bring the wisdom of being a loving mother to my 10-year-old son, navigating the challenges of holistic parenting under neocolonialism with integrity and intention.
The Modalities I Work With:
- Polyvagal nervous system education
- Conscious communication
- Non-violent communication
- The Wheel of Consent (boundary setting)
- Indigenous ways of knowing
- Inner child work (similar to IFS)
- Love-mathematics
- Attachment theory
- Trauma-informed psychology
- Human design and astrology
My style of coaching..
In my coaching practice, I guide my clients towards uncovering core beliefs and reframing them, building social emotional skills, developing repair skills and self-compassion, and finding effective ways to set boundaries and communicate needs. The core basis of my work rests in helping my clients develop a more connected, calm, curious, and compassionate relationship with themselves.
My style of coaching is unique in that I am a resource, and what you get depends on what you pull from me. I do not create a structure or plan for my clients. If you need a plan, I am not for you. I see life and all of the interpersonal dilemmas we struggle with as inherently complex and abstract. Thus, I guide in a non-linear way. I find that as soon as we label or box things in (as the Western colonial mindset has taught us to do) we lose their essence and the benefits of a holistic perspective. Black-and-white thinking is my nemesis. My forte is playing in the grey area with ample curiosity. And my life is living proof of how beneficial it can be to get off the linear track and ride the waves of the abstract.
A mentorship with me is an immersive experience where you receive undivided attention, care, and radically honest truth. This is for people who are committed to healing their relational patterns and desire to be called into higher integrity.
Qualifications
Through all the pain and suffering I've felt and witnessed in the world, I believe that cultivating and sustaining healthy, reciprocal relationships is activism work and the clearest path to solving so many of humanity’s problems.
My academic background is in cultural and medical anthropology, communications, dialogue facilitation, and psychology. These degrees deepened my awareness of how culture shapes our perceptions of ourselves and others, and how institutions impact our everyday lives, relationships, and sense of self. They sharpened my natural ability to notice relational dynamics, spot underlying values, and tune into the deeper meaning behind what people say and do.
Education is important, but without lived experience to anchor it, it's just theory. What makes any of us good at what we do isn't just what we've studied, it's what we've lived and integrated. My smorgasbord includes surviving disability, parents with addictions, infidelity, deep loss, single motherhood, and a plethora of other challenges that shaped me far beyond any credential. I offer guidance that has been lived, tested, and embodied. I'm here to guide you, with an emphasis on healing through love.